Our daughter in law’s have tremendous power. It is important to recognize it and to not be threatened by it.
Something happened to our sons when they met their brides. A supernatural and spiritual bond was formed between the two and the link and bond is strong. Very, very strong. It is my prayer I never see that bond start to unravel and unwind. It would be devastating. So I won’t waste moments on pouting or sulking because my own bond feel like it’s a filament, this thin silk from me to my son. Because you know, she satisfies, provides, and is necessary for his life now. I won’t listen to the voice that says I am expendable, even if I feel like it. It’s not true. Things are different now. Yes, this young Queen holds enormous power.
But she does not hold the power to my happiness or to my blessings.
Her reach my be strong and firm but it is not long.
We want happiness and blessings? That is within our power and that will never be superseded and can never be conceded to another. The God of bonds, threads, and silken filaments given to mothers and transferred to queens has limited and put constraints of the transferal of who holds the power of your happiness and your blessing.
The Beatitudes of Matthew 5 hold promises of blessings. Most of them I am not crazy about. No one wants to be poor in spirit, mourn, or be persecuted. Ya. Not on any of our wish lists. And those things happen to us not by choice. We simply find ourselves in these places and can come to this passage and believe the truth of it no matter how we feel or what we think or see. But there are three blessings that require decision from us and based on our decision, and how we wield our own power, our blessing and happiness either comes or it will not.
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.
And here is her incredible power. The power of a woman to choose mercy. To always choose mercy. Because she knows, she doesn’t think or hope, she knows she needs it herself. It’s the power of a mother in law to know where she came from and never forget her own mistakes, her own stunted growth and delayed maturity. And this original queen doesn’t believe the subtle lies that she’s too wise or old to wreck her own home or hurt her loved ones. She understands grace, and that there will never, ever, be a day she doesn’t stand in need of it herself. She doesn’t live with selective memory of her own parenting skills, cooking abilities, or youthful misapplied zeal.
She understands mercy. She’s received it a million times over and will need it again. So she picks up the scepter called Mercy and when she picks it up, she is blessed.
And here is her incredible power. The power of a woman to choose a pure heart. To not say what she feels like saying just so she feels better. With her age came wisdom and the knowledge that words matter. They matter so much. But she won’t say it if it’s laced with hurt and barbs. She will lance open her own heart and spill the guile out of her own before she ever picks up a scalpel to lance someone else’s heart open. She will stand naked before God, and let Him see her, in her pain, in her shame, or in her need. And she will have pure moments with her God before she ever makes a move to require anyone else to be accountable to her.
She understands poison. And manipulation. And she refuses to pick up that tainted scepter. Instead she will pick up the one that burns her to the touch and purifies her own heart before she judges a matter. And when she picks up the scepter of a pure heart, she is blessed.
And here is her incredible power. The power of a woman to be the peacemaker. To choose peace over rightness. To seek humility over power. To pray for God to mend ways and not offer or try to take His place in the fixing of things. To learn to wait, to wait for peace. To not panic. To understand that it is only Perfect Love that casts out fear and brings peace, so she goes about revealing this Perfect Love by showing it through her love. This scepter is crude and rough. Nothing glamorous about it.
She understands peace. She came from a war torn place and a noise filled past and knows that nothing healthy can grow in discontent or loudness. So she chooses the splinter filled scepter, the one that may hurt her to hold, rather than the diva dazzled scepter. Because she knows that all that blings is not worth the peace of her family. And when she picks up the scepter of peace, she is blessed.
Yes, the young queens have terrible and strong power. But it is limited and doesn’t control your happiness or your blessings. That stays forever with us old queens. The choice is ours. This right and power has been left with you. Don’t give these scepters away. Keep them, use them. And believe the Word of God enough to obey it today.
Because the new queens on the block do not hold the power to our happiness or to our blessings. Her reach my be strong and firm but it is not long.
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